All Men Should Read This Mans Response to His Wife Leaving Him Because He Didnt Do Dishes

All Men Should Read This Mans Response to His Wife Leaving Him Because He Didnt Do Dishes When it comes to the gender division of household chores and the uneven approach to mental and emotional labor that is so often implicit within that we know weve still got a ways to go before equality is reached.In hetero households, in particular, the second shift remains a phenomenon largely specific to women, with the expectation that theyll be the ones to take on the lions share of home life management and maintenance persisting.Which is why one mans open letter about his divorce, penned in 2016, continues to resonate.In an op-ed blogger Matthew Fray details the downfall of his marriage. And its a scenario that may feel familiar to many couples whove kept a home together (whether theyre continuing to cohabitate or leid).Sometimes I leave used drinking glasses by the kitchen sink, just inches away from the dishwasher. It isnt a big deal to me now. It wasnt a big deal to me when I was marrie d. But it was a big deal to her, Fray wrote. Every time shed walk into the kitchen and find a drinking glass by the sink, she moved incrementally closer to moving out and ending ur marriage. I just didnt know it yet.His phrasing here may sound a touch dramatic, sure at least at first. But Fray then goes on to unpack, refreshingly, where exactly he was culpable in this dirty dish situation and his findings are ones that many a married person today could likely stand to benefit from reading.I remember my wife often saying how exhausting it was for her to have to tell me what to do all the time I always reasoned If you just tell me what you want me to do, Ill gladly do it, he recalled. But she didnt want to be my mother. She wanted to be my partner, and she wanted me to apply all of my intelligence and learning capabilities to the logistics of managing our lives and household. She wanted me to figure out all of the things that need done, and devise my own method of task management. I wish I could remember what seemed so unreasonable to me about that at the time.While Fray adds that a dirty glass is not more important than marital peace, since his divorce, hes come to understand that the arguments with his partner were never actually about dirty dishes they were about a perceived lack of respect, acknowledgement, and love. And, we mean no kidding Isnt that whats really at the root of most moments of interpersonal conflict, relationship dynamic aside? Read his full post